Posted by Tamar on April 25, 2006, at 21:15:16
In reply to Why is the T relationship sometimes the hardest, posted by happyflower on April 24, 2006, at 14:18:34
Hey Happyflower,
I haven’t read the whole thread… I’m supposed to be doing something else… But I can relate to wanting to say f*ck the rules.
I suppose he’d say the rules are there to keep you safe… which sucks. I sometimes want to tell my therapist that I have my own rules to keep me safe; I don’t need his boundaries to protect me.
On the other hand… you do have his undivided and focused attention for an hour when you see him. I bet even his wife doesn’t get as much as that. Maybe she sits at home wishing she could be one of his clients just to be able to get his full attention. It’s impossible to sustain that intensity for long in any relationship.
I’d like to institute a National F*ck The Rules Day, in which we get to hug them and go for walks with them. Or, even better, I’d like to devise a whole new psychotherapeutic theory in which the aim of therapy is to develop a personal relationship between therapist and client. I guess then therapists would have to survive on welfare because pretty soon they’d be spending all their time with their new friends and they wouldn’t have time to do any paid work… But I think it’s possible to find practical solutions to these difficulties…
Gotta go check out that flying pig…
Tamar
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