Posted by orchid on April 24, 2006, at 18:45:22
In reply to Why is the T relationship sometimes the hardest, posted by happyflower on April 24, 2006, at 14:18:34
One thing which I did which might be of help, is to try to get deep into your feelings. And see if they are there for a reason, other than the obvious ones of genuine liking and appreciation for a person who helps you and who seems to share so much in common with you and who seems to like you.
In my case, it turned out to be related to my relationship with my dad quite a lot. And that piece of information was THE REAL BIG help in moving on (atleast to a good extent). Whatever I felt, I found out that the real root of every feeling was the sense of needing approval from an authority figure, and every other feeling I felt when dug deep down boiled to it. If you can possibly identify a deep down need in yourself which your therapist is satisfying for you, I think you can work from that point.
And on the side, I do think as others here, that your therapist is sending you lot of mixed signals, and am worried that it will hurt you in the long run. Maybe he isn't really aware of it, or doesn't know how to control his emotions, but I think nevertheless, mixed signals always end up hurting the patient the most irrespective of any feelings on the part of the therapist. And I think you should bring it up to him now, to prevent yourself from getting hurt in the long run.
I don't know if you will approve of this kind of suggestion. And am worried if you might think of this as a form of disapproval. But it isn't. I am telling you what I did to recover having been in the same boat and from what I think would really help you.
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