Posted by annierose on April 24, 2006, at 18:15:51
In reply to Why is the T relationship sometimes the hardest, posted by happyflower on April 24, 2006, at 14:18:34
I think Daisy's post was right. We can feel the possiblities in the therapy room, how conversations can go, how the other person respect's our point-of-view, how they respond when we're angry, etc. etc.
And from those experiences, we can begin to generalize in real life settings. We can raise the bar of our expectations, how we want our loved ones to treat us, respond to us, meet our needs.
It's painful. It's takes a really long time. And in the process, we feel so vulnerable, so naked with our ugliness, that it scares us to death. During all the those uncomfortable moments, we realize our T's are still listening, still comforting us, that we are indeed worth more. In the end, because I always like happy endings, our core self changes. It's healthier.
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