Posted by gardenergirl on April 25, 2006, at 8:36:20
In reply to Re: Why is the T relationship sometimes the hardest » orchid, posted by happyflower on April 25, 2006, at 8:21:19
> All I know is that I felt something for him when I first met him, a feeling I have only felt for grandma, and an old friend who died after HS. It is a deep feeling that I feel that goes all through me. It is like he is inside of my being. This was before I even knew anything about him.
My T has said many times before that one unconscious speaks to another. Taking that a bit further, I wonder if one unconscious can "recognize" something in another that connects them, even if consciously you can't identify it. Some might say it was souls connecting or even re-connecting. I'm not sure if I believe the re-connecting part, but I do relate to that feeling you describe of knowing someone without having gotten to know them.
The tough part is that this seems to make your therapy relationship confusing. It's nice to feel so connected with someone, but toss into the mix all the potential feelings, needs, wishes, etc. of a therapy relationship, and no wonder you feel confused.
Not that I have any solutions for you. Just empathy--and a hope that you don't get hurt.
Take care,
gg
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