Posted by Dinah on May 20, 2009, at 21:06:32
In reply to Just looking for attention, posted by FindingMyDesire on May 20, 2009, at 1:17:45
Nothing wrong with looking for attention.
I think one brilliant thing my therapist did was to tell me that I didn't need to be in bad shape to get his attention. I could call just because I wanted to. I could, in affect, call and say "I am looking for attention." and he'd give it, of a sort.
In practice, it doesn't work out that well. But then again in practice it never works particularly well to call him. Still, knowing I can somehow makes it feel less urgent.
Do you have as needed meds? I find my Risperdal is a godsend when I'm spiraling out of control. And I've grown to know that if I take it, I'll be calmer in a bit, which helps me hold on till it works.
This may not be true of you, but I find I get more obsessive in all sorts of ways when I need to distract myself from something. It may feel like the object of my obsession is the cause of my distress, but if I objectively look at what's going on around me, I often find that there's something I'm trying to avoid or something I'm trying not to think about. It seems odd, since the obsession often causes me more grief than the issue I'm trying to avoid. But nevertheless I find it's true - of me anyway.
Is there something in your life, aside from your therapist, that you are trying to avoid or not think about right now?
Again, it may have no relevance at all to your situation.
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