Posted by madeline on May 1, 2006, at 20:37:50
In reply to I guess a part of it could be because of a change, posted by happyflower on May 1, 2006, at 17:21:54
I didn't know your husband had an affair. I'm so sorry. Humph!
There is a species of chimpanzee called the Bonobo chimps. These particular chimps have a lot of the same traits as human males, most notably, they like to have sex in order to re-establish intimacy in the hoarde. Human males seem to carry this particular trait, whereas human females require intimacy in order to have sex. A generalization, sure. But sometimes, you have just have to recognize the chimp-like behaviour in the males of our species too. However, he hurt you, you call the shots.
Now, does bonobo chimp behaviour apply to your therapist as well? Absolutely! Bonobo chimps, can become very excited when an attractive, outgoing female chimp is around. They will do somersaults, yell and scream and do all sorts of shenanigans to get her attention. It seems as though the more they forget themselves and their place in the hoarde, the more attractive the female chimps find the males. I see a direct correlation in your therapist's behaviour. Of course he likes you happyflower, probably a lot. Like the chimp, however, he may have forgotten his place in the hoarde altogether. A gently "whack about the head" with the proverbial termite stick should bring him back in line.
Express your anger toward him, I think he has it coming.
Also, I feel like a good cry too. I might just bawl all night. We can cry together.
maddie
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