Posted by Toph on March 10, 2005, at 15:34:26
In reply to Re: just existing... » Toph, posted by sunny10 on March 10, 2005, at 15:08:47
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> Okay, now that you have your answers, any more thoughts??It would be really hypocritical of me to spout off like some sort of expert on addictions. I have had my share of them, not drugs, though I no stranger to experimentation, mostly distractions like television, video games, and recently the computer. On the computer I used to play poker and freecell. Now I mainly play Yahoo hearts and this really weird game called psycho-babble. This obsession is dysfunctional (part of the definition of addiction) in that it threatens my job, my marriage and my self-esteem. How's that for a distraction? I feel I am losing all self-control. How were you able to walk away from PB for several weeks, sunny?
Sorry if I digressed from your problem. I think you mention aspirations as important motivators. He needs to figure out where he wants to go and what he wants to become. Employment is a big part of the male self-image. And as you said, he needs to participate more in what you are becoming as a couple. I hope he figures some of this out before he loses a very special person in his life.
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