Posted by Annierose on May 31, 2009, at 12:22:01
In reply to Re: Back to the same yucky place, posted by Dinah on May 31, 2009, at 8:45:23
Dinah -
How did I miss your reply?
I explained in my post to Daisy that my t explained that she doesn't have a standing appointment time available that morning. I am fairly certain when new clients call for an appointment she tries to see people promptly, knowing how difficult that first phone call is for the person.
The other time Daisy was referring to shows how great her memory is ... because I was trying to think back to that myself. A few years ago my t had asked me to switch an afternoon time to a morning time --- and I'm fairly certain she made some reference to "no longer being available in the afternoon". And she added "beginning January 6th ...blah blah blah" So I said "sounds like you are teaching a class" because it coordinated with a school calendar.
I came to find out a few months later, it was a client's school schedule, not hers. So that really pissed me off because I felt she wasn't straightforward with me regarding the reason.
Since then we had another schedule snafu. She announced in December of '07 that she was trying to get more balance in her life and she was no longer working Fridays. So now her schedule was down to three days a week ... and I see her three days a week. I realized that if I needed to cancel an appointment, there would be little if any recourse.
Sure enough in time, I had to cancel my then "new" Thursday appointment and she offered my old Friday appointment as a replacement --- which I thought was very nice. Until after the appointment I saw the regular Friday girl who had the appointment after me arrive at her office. A few weeks later - another change and again the same regular Friday person arrived. I did confront my therapist on this - and she explained that that client couldn't work out an alternative time and she (my therapist) couldn't abandon her and they were working on finding a new time slot. Whatever. I was not happy.
I must add - that in time - I did perfer my new Thursday time. The Friday client I dubbed the "stalker" client because she would always hang out in this little vestibule directly office my t's office (instead of walking into her waiting room). It creeped me out. So I am happy to be rid of her!!
I'm rambling. I guess no relationship is perfect and our therapists are certainly not perfect. But I wish she was.
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