Posted by Annierose on May 30, 2009, at 9:16:14
In reply to Re: Back to the same yucky place » Annierose, posted by Dinah on May 29, 2009, at 23:22:02
Dinah -
Your words did not feel harsh. She does admit to a cultural difference (only recently). After posting last night, I was cleaning up my old computer files and I ran across a letter I wrote to her in February (prior to a two week break) where I was talking about this same darn yucky place.
In that discussion she said my anger acts as a defense from her warm feelings towards me ... in that it's easier for me to be angry than receive her warmth. I honestly do not believe that to be true (and have told her as much). My mom lacked emotional warmth, so when my t is quiet, it feels critical and mean --- not warm and fuzzy. As much as I explain that, she doesn't change. Here lies the problem.
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