Posted by starloree on April 25, 2006, at 19:40:24
In reply to Here's my take on it... » starloree, posted by Racer on April 25, 2006, at 18:59:42
>the main reason i have a problem dealing with hubby's memory (personality?) is because i grew up in household where my feelings were always denied or shunned. i wans't listened to ever at my home. and his memory prob makes me feel not listened to.
that's from my post above, so yes, the issue is not being listened to, as i said. also, it wasn't only the small things i yelled at my husband about. an example of one of those moments where it wasn't a small thing is when my husband went snowmobiling (christmas day) with MY WALLET in his back pocket. it is a clunky, big wallet. not hard to miss. he went snowmobiling with it, and of course, lost it. I HAD TO FIX THE WHOLE SITUATION, because he has no sense of accomplishing things, getting things DONE, i have to take care of everything. he makes the money, sure, but i do everything else. so if i ask him to do something, i would put my faith in him to do it right, and of course, every time i put my complete faith in him, he let me down, he always needed me to take care of it. i don't want a child, i want a man, one who can think for himself. sorry i am going off on a rant again!!! i have no one to talk to but T, so i talk as much as i can, gievn the right opportunity!
thanks!
starloree
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