Posted by daisym on October 23, 2004, at 1:51:27
In reply to Re: It's only cloudy today » Daisym, posted by antigua on October 22, 2004, at 10:50:04
I think what you said makes perfect sense. And it may be that your recently discovered little girls need this transference to test out their attachment to your therapist. Especially if things were sort of unemotional for awhile. My guess is that the accident was so traumatic that much of your dependency and neediness were triggered around this and it is still very fresh. I know you will work through it.
As far as soothing an adolescent girl, I have no idea. We talked yesterday about the need for concrete reassurance about a number of things, and I think that is HER testing to see if what she thinks is still true. My therapist actually said, "you have an insecure attachment" which of course I know, but it was weird to hear it. I didn't know whether to apologize for it or not.
I had a hard time today. Too much time to think and no contact with my therapist. I should be sleeping but can't. I tried to work on the letter earlier, but it made me sad as so much of it felt like it was who I was before the depression...not who I am now. I'm going to try a different tact on it tomorrow, or maybe I'll leave it alone until I get home. I'm glad that I agreed to a Monday evening session, even though I feel a little weird about going so late.
Something you said in your post about leaving sessions made me think of a thread I want to start. Look for it below.
Hugs,
Daisy
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