Posted by special_k on April 5, 2006, at 18:08:40
In reply to It should be ok to ask to hug, posted by Deneb on April 5, 2006, at 13:24:29
> I expect Dr. Bob to tell me if he doesn't want to be hugged. That's it, I'm going to ask and he's going to tell me. That's the best way to handle things. I won't be upset if he doesn't want to hug me.
Sure... Because you already know he is going to say no, eh?
DBT... DBT... Tryin' to remember...
There was a section on skills training on interpersonal effectiveness.
Part of it was about weighing things... And deciding whether to ask for something or not.
And there social appropriateness does come into it rather...
But yeah I reckon it is okay to ask.
Though in this case I would say why bother.
Because you know the answer is going to be 'no'.Hrm.
Maybe the best way to grasp the solidity of a rock...
Is to poke at it every now and then...Heh heh.
Not that I think you are poking, really...
But if the point was to tell Bob you wanted to give him a hug...
The point has been made...
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