Posted by special_k on April 5, 2006, at 19:33:20
In reply to Like a rock » special_k, posted by Deneb on April 5, 2006, at 18:57:50
IMO.
> That's true, but I still don't know whether he's a rock in real life...
nobody is.
but what is the point?
if you poke hard enough
you might see him shake
and then what?
you will feel hurt, disappointed, let down, and full of rage.you don't want to see human frailty
you want him to be a rock
that is why it is an ideal
an idea that you have fallen for
because nobody can sustain that irl
nobody can...but people are more or less like rocks
more or less stable(go visit other message boards if you don't get what i'm saying there)
but nobody could live up to your ideal.
that is why it is important to remember that it is the ideal
that it is the stabilityto remember that he is just a human being
more stable / contained than most
but not perfect
not a perfect rock
rocks don't bleed
i think dr bob can bleedso IMO appreciate what he has done
and show the appreciation by being respectful
respect.i know it is hard...
i know you are just playing...
messing around...
and probly i'm overreacting...
and there isn't any harm.but you will have noticed it is a triggering subject for some...
and i guess it is about how when you got hammie you said you used to poke at him and try and make him do things...
then you got attached to him and didn't do that to him anymore 'cause you didn't want to hurt him.
and sometimes i wonder if you try and poke at bob and make him do things...
and i guess part of an appropriate way of showing someone that you care about them and appreciate them is to...
respect their boundaries.
and remember that they are only human.
as are you.
and me.
and so on.
have to go to work now
(((((((((((deneb))))))))))PS
sometimes i get scared that if someone finds the place to poke... the whole thing will shatter. and i get scared... something does that... can't remember what it's called... larry would probably know...
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