Posted by special_k on April 4, 2006, at 22:51:02
In reply to Re: Boundaries -- both personal and professional » Racer, posted by Deneb on April 4, 2006, at 22:41:25
enjoy the feelings deneb...
don't get me wrong...but IMO you should be careful to be sensitive about the boundary thing.
why?
because it can hurt when there are boundaries.
yeah it can.
just like it can hurt when there is discipline.
i mean... in your better moments you do understand your blockings eh?
and i think... that while the blockings hurt...
and you rail a bit at them (by the emails etc)
ultimately...
you have all the more respect
(and love)
for him because he does seem to be so very consistent with you.it can hurt...
but really methinks that is why the feelings are there...regarding presents and hugs...
different people have difference transference issues going on...
and some people...
need the consistency to be at arms length.
in fact...
maybe we all do really.otherwise...
confusion
lots of confusion
and ultimately more pain.because sometimes people do get confused...
poster:special_k
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