Posted by Dinah on June 8, 2009, at 9:17:01
In reply to I'm OK, but why didn't she call me?, posted by FindingMyDesire on June 7, 2009, at 13:33:22
My therapist has told me that if he doesn't call when he promises, or if he doesn't call me back, I should call and say something like "Dinah. Reminder. You were supposed to call me."
If I tried to find his caring in his remembering to call me, I'd be doomed to failure. But if I try to find his caring in his willingness to be reminded, and his contacting me when reminded, I'll be much more successful.
He'd far prefer that to my communicating my feelings in other ways.
Maybe you could see this as an opportunity to evaluate your options, and which would be best for you and for your therapeutic relationship?
No point in beating yourself up for something that is past when the energy can be spent in the future.
poster:Dinah
thread:899835
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20090515/msgs/899974.html