Posted by Amelia_in_StPaul on May 15, 2009, at 18:48:32
In reply to Re: Giving up (*potentially triggering*), posted by softheprairie on April 30, 2009, at 1:55:39
hello softheprairie, thank you for you supportive message. ahhh, I agree--unfortunately, we consulted a bankruptcy attorney last year. we would have to file chapter 13, which in recent years has changed. there are rather draconian standards that get applied to every person, no matter what state they live in, what their personal needs are, etc. so you can only have such and such for food, for housing, for "extras"--no money for caring for our cat with kidney failure, no money to clothe my spouse as he should be clothed in his job as a director of operations. so...but we're going to try to stick it out by doing a lot of labor ourselves and then get the h_ll out of here. it has been so hard. I thank you for your empathy.
it's good, so good, to know that someone else has been through terrible trials and lived to tell about it. I just can't see, sometimes, the end of the burden, the end of the depression. I thank you so much for your message of hope.
> Regarding the house being a heavy weight on your shoulders, I think if I were you, I would get a consultation with an experienced bankruptcy attorney in your state to consider if that is a way you can leave the house. One decision to buy that house shouldn't haunt and burden you indefinitely. It sounds like you need a fresh start without it.
> I identify with a lot of the things you mention, but I am doing a lot better in the past several months than the preceeding five years. I'm glad I stuck through it till I found a better med mixture.
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