Posted by happyflower on May 4, 2006, at 13:17:31
When I sat down, he asked my how I am feeling, and I said nervous.(which I am normally not) I said there is something I need to tell you. He listened to me nicely. He then said he will honor my wishes as much as he can. He said he would stop talking the social stuff that didn't have anything to do with therapy. (small talk) He did say that he uses disclosure probably more than most T's especailly if it shows he can relate to the client. So I think he got the message.
Then he brought up termaination, luckey me. He asked me if I thought we did good work together, and I said yes. So we talked about that, the same stuff I have heard before. Well he asked what I thought we needed to work on. It almost seemed that he was in a way saying, hey, didn't we do good work , why are you complaining on HOW we did it.Everything was okay, a little strained, I was looking at the clock, LOL (which I think I have never done before) But near the end I brought up what his friend told me at the gym, that I wouldn't play Carniage Hall. I said you can send the bill to him since his friend is trying to mess me up.
Then I asked him why he told me that this guy was his friend. Was I suppose to avoid this couple, or was he giving me a heads up. He seemed to get a little defensive about it and said that he didn't mean anything by it. I said that I am not the one coming to them, they are coming to me and talking to me. He said I can talk to them ( a couple), and that he didn't want to mess up my social time. Then he said, just don't talk to me. He said it kinda of joking, but I told him, well you suck! I looked right at him when I said it too. I don't know how he took that comment because it was time for me to leave.
I get the impression he is a little miffed about me questioning him about stuff he has said and done. I feel bad that maybe he is a little ticked, but I needed to do this for myself. But I do feel so sad, like I lost something, but I guess it wasn't mine to have anyways. I guess I am feeling a little angry too, I am not sure whybut sadness is what I feel the most. So any ideas anyone?
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