Posted by fallsfall on April 30, 2006, at 20:36:22
In reply to Re: lesbian sexual feelings fantasy 4 myT ? Veracity, posted by eyes2ursoul on April 30, 2006, at 17:30:51
It is possible to have sexual feelings for a woman therapist and not be lesbian in any way. I'm not saying that you AREN'T lesbian, I'm just saying that the feelings that you have for your therapist could have a different explanation.
I don't know what kind of therapy your therapist practices - do you? Is it Cognitive Behavioral (CBT), or psychodynamic, or something else? Depending on they type of therapy, your therapist might react differently to what you say. So it might be helpful to know where she's coming from.
I find that in therapy I wind up having transference feelings a lot. There has been a lot written on this board about transference. For me, what happens is that something my therapist (or someone else, for that matter) does reminds me strongly of something from my past (either good or bad). And instead of feeling towards my therapist based on what is actually going on, I end up feeling like i did towards some other person in the past.
For instance, my father is very critical. So every time my therapist would challenge anything I said, I heard his comments as critical - even though he wasn't being critical. I FELT the criticism that I was used to feeling from my dad. And those old feelings are usually even more intense than regular feelings. So it seemed to me that he was being critical, when he really wasn't. It just felt that way because I had old feelings coming up at that point.
I'm not explaining this well...
The point is, that your therapist might be reminding you of someone in your past who you did want to kiss. The person from the past and the therapist don't need to be of the same sex. People have maternal transference feelings for male therapists etc.
I'll be interested to hear what kind of therapy she does.
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