Posted by Racer on April 28, 2006, at 19:04:38
In reply to Re: I HATE THERPY!!! » B2chica, posted by ghost on April 28, 2006, at 16:28:27
Something Ghost wrote triggered this thought for me: some therapists seem to start from the idea that clients want things done for them, are too dependent on others, etc. Especially if they can be diagnosed as borderline. (Hell, even if they're just women.) If your therapist is one of those, that might be what her comment was coming from.
When I went through my own nightmare, it was with a non-profit agency and damn near EVERYONE I came into contact with there started out by telling me some form of "no one will do it for you." Hello? Let me introduce myself to you -- when I bought my first car, I learned to change oil and brakes, so that I would not have to rely on someone else to do it for me. "Racer, do you think that it's possible to be too dependent?" That was said to me, by someone who had never met me before. My answer? "Of course there are. What makes you *assume* that I am one of them?" Because, Chica, I might actually be pathologically INdependent about most of my life.
Sorry. That tangent was to try to say, "Sometimes they make assumptions based on others they've seen, and not on the person in front of them right now..."
Anyway, I hope that things work out for you. I'm so biassed about women Ts, that I really hope this works out for you.
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