Posted by fairywings on April 28, 2006, at 16:19:52
In reply to I HATE THERPY!!!, posted by B2chica on April 28, 2006, at 9:58:59
Hi ((b2))
I think racer had some really good points, maybe there is some miscommunication there.
Just playing devil's advocate here a bit, but maybe if there was miscommunication, it contributed to how badly the sessions went, and your feelings toward her.
Maybe knowing how uncomfortable you are with women, and knowing how difficult it is to express yourself with women, she is reading that as abuse from your mother. I suppose if you do stay with her, you'll eventually have to open up to her, and maybe that's a good thing - to start to trust a woman.
I want to feel that also...safe and cared about, and maybe you want her to be there to more than just listen...I don't know. If I just felt someone was going to listen to me, and not make me feel okay I don't think I'd feel it was safe to open up. Maybe in the bit of self disclosure she was trying to help you feel more safe. Maybe she took the need to feel safe differently. Could you clarify with her what you meant. It's so hard to go back to those kinds of issues when you feel so angry and hurt about them, it feels really unsafe bec. you're afraid of being slapped down.
You said she's experienced, did she explain why she thinks that certain things are true? Is it possible these are things you're not ready to look at, or not look at with her?
I hope you find someone you really like, or find that she will be a good person to help you. I'm sorry you didn't feel any better about the 2nd appt. That really s*cks.
fw
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