Posted by fi on April 27, 2006, at 19:06:37
In reply to Need some advice regarding being geeky, posted by orchid on April 27, 2006, at 14:49:37
I cant give you any advice on that. But sympathies on what sounds like a difficult one. Your belief that studying/doing well are geeky masculine things seems very strong, whether or not it is logical. I dont know if there is some way of getting a more realistic view? May be simplistic idea, but arent there feminine women who are also high achievers/academics? Or female friends with a different view?Does that help challenge your assumption?
But maybe it is the kind of thing that would need some counselling or similar. Deeply held beliefs arent that easy to understand or change.
On a purely basic personal level, when I have been studying or at work, there was no visible difference between people who were and werent doing well. There is still the stereotype that women should be 'barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen' ie not out at work. Cant help that your husband might feel more comfortable with that.
It would be so good if, whichever choice you make, you could have a satisfying life. I would love there to be some solution like that out there.
Fi
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