Posted by milly on April 26, 2006, at 10:04:16
In reply to Re: Really bad reaction and no T to help me with it » milly, posted by Tamar on April 25, 2006, at 20:59:20
thanks Tamar, wise words as usual!
> Being over it takes time. And part of getting over it is recognising that sometimes you will need to react in a way that makes other people stare. But if you need to react that way, you’re allowed to. I guess I believe your health and sense of self-determination are more important than your reputation (but I don’t really know you, so feel free to ignore me if I’m talking crap).**not crap
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> Is there any way you can avoid going onto school premises?**I have just one daughter left there, I moved the others at Easter, but she has to stay and finish this year as she's taking her GCSE's, but then sh'e moving too. I try not to be the one to take or collect her but sometimes it is unavoidable
>> It seems unreasonable for your employers to expect you to go there in the circumstances.
**ex employers!!! No longer employed there, swamping the place with police and social services wasn't taken very well! (Even though it was the right thing to do) Plus some fairly outrageous behaviour didn't help! (but i wasn't well at the time)
>It may appear to be part of your job, but you’ve been victimised and your safety is paramount. Are you a member of a union? Can they help?
*** yes they were involved last year and could have gone to court with numerous things, sexual harrasment, bullying, workplace injury (mental) but i was so ill and nobody would wait for me to get better to fight on so in the end the union negotiated a settlement. they wouldn't help me get to the bottom of it which was the child abuse, eventually it was me and my T which took that to the correct people.
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> It’s very hard indeed to find yourself needing your therapist so much after termination. You must miss him terribly.** I do I really do
> And yet… I think he’d be proud of you for standing up for yourself and saying what you needed. I’m pretty sure he’d feel you’ve made immense progress despite the short time you were seeing him.**Thanks so much for that, I really needed to know that T would think I did Ok and your right he would be pleased with me. It gave me such a warm hugged feeling reading that paragraph as if he hasn't vanished from my life I just have to try and remember how he would have been if I'd taken this into therapy and you're right he would have been proud of me just like when i told a few people a few 'home truths' he was proud of me then and he couldn't help but laugh at the thought of 'Milly mouse' turning into a scary rat
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