Posted by B2chica on October 31, 2005, at 9:54:17
In reply to Would it surprise anyone?, posted by antigua on October 31, 2005, at 8:35:54
antigua, i just want to quickly add that you left one very important fact out of all this. You ASKED for a hug.
even if subconciously you knew you'd be rejected. there was something that you wanted/needed and you asked for it.
just because you were rejected doesn't mean you shouldn't have asked it! i think that alone was a big step and shouldn't be ignored.this seems like a stressful time for you (understatement) but you need to take some successes out of this action.
about the surprise...no, i think it's is interesting how our mind works.
one of my abusers was my brother, and i think in all my relationships (friendships) i look for that 'older brother'/protective figure. the sick part for me is that even the times that he hurt me physically i still longed to be with him, cuz that meant he loved me, cared for me, wanted me to be with him. he was after all my big brother. :(
b2c.
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