Posted by crazy teresa on March 31, 2006, at 8:32:08
In reply to I had no human contact in over 2 years., posted by linkadge on March 30, 2006, at 21:01:37
Sweetie, sometimes if you want a change, you have to BE the change. Start touching! Ease yourself into it. The next time you're thanking someone, hug him/her. If you're talking to someone, touch that person's shoulder. It might be uncomfortable at first, but do it anyway!
I was raised in a family that never touched or vocalized any love. I made up my mind that was the one thing I was going to change when I had kids. It was weird when I started out doing it because I had never done it.
But it felt good. I even ventured into uncharted waters and started suggesting my kids give great-grandma and great-grandpa a hug and a kiss when leaving their house. It didn't take long before they were asking the kids for hugs and kisses when we were getting ready to leave. I think it was something they had wanted all along, but were afraid to do as it just wasn't the norm from their upbringing.
I bet if you walked into the kitchen and gave your mom and dad a big hug the next time you were home they would love it.
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