Posted by deirdrehbrt on March 30, 2006, at 23:01:32
In reply to I had no human contact in over 2 years., posted by linkadge on March 30, 2006, at 21:01:37
I'm trying to overcome that sort of thing. My friends hug me, and I them, but it's not easy. Even though I like hugs, even though I need them, I feel uncomfortable with them.
I think I learned the wrong lessons when I was young. I remember one hug from my father and it was probably 30 years ago. My mother hugs me, but it feels uncomfortable and strained.
I'm trying to teach myself to be more natural with touching people, be it holding hands, or putting my hand on their shoulder when I think they need it. It really doesn't come naturally though... part of the way I was brought up I guess.
Might that be part of what's going on with you? Are you afraid to give hugs? From what I've been learning, people are willing to give hugs when they're invited. It's hard to give that invitation though, at least for me. I'm just afraid, and overcoming that fear is the hard part.
So, (((((((linkadge))))))) Arms open wide.
--Dee
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