Posted by verne on January 23, 2005, at 18:27:48
In reply to Re: please rephrase that » Dr. Bob, posted by Angel Girl on January 23, 2005, at 12:01:14
Angel Girl,
I think Alexandra's post explained where the potential problem lies: "this poster payed extremely little *concern* for my feelings".
It's not about using "babblespeak" correctly, using "I" words, or mastering the civility guidelines but about boundaries. We are fine as long as we talk about "our" stuff but when we talk about the other person's motives we get into "their" stuff.
I think part of this site's civility is giving people the benefit of the doubt. Lou made a mistake, apologized for it, and Dr. Bob put an asterisk in the offending word. Just about everyone recognizes that Lou didn't do anything intentional.
A statement like, "this poster payed extremely little *concern* for my feelings" suggests otherwise.
verne
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