Posted by Susan J on October 23, 2003, at 11:02:15
In reply to Re: I really need help on this.. » Susan J, posted by Larry Hoover on October 22, 2003, at 16:54:40
Hello, Larry,
>>That's her reward, your emotion.
<<Maybe you can help me with this one. I know we are all social creatures and we have a basic need to interact with others. But I *don't* understand a person who *needs* to elicit bad reactions from another person, or *needs* to make someone feel bad, or anything negative like that. I don't understand the thought process going on.If I hate someone, and unfortunately I have, I withdraw from and ignore that person. I do not try to make their lives miserable. I just plain don't want to be around them.
Now let's complicate this further, and maybe she genuinely likes me. If she does, why would she want to annoy me?
What's going on here? I can do the *no emotion* calm thing when speaking to her. But I'd like to understand more about why she's trying to get negative attention in the first place.
And thanks for the websites....I'm going to take a look at them now.
Susan
poster:Susan J
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