Posted by jay on October 26, 2002, at 16:11:04
In reply to searching?, posted by susan C on October 26, 2002, at 13:07:10
Hey Mouse:Thanks for your nice reply. :-) And yes..I sorta do have a thing for older women. ;-)
You know, in my situation, I responded to someone who was very open and kind at many times, and even some of my co-workers where a bit surprised at the outcome.
But, yeah I am feeling much better about myself, but as so many know, depression is SUCH a lonely illness. I am doing much better (touch wood), and many of my previous 'outgoing' characteristics are coming right back. At 33, I obviously am soul-searching for my mate. I don't come across as desperate, but I do hold back a bit less especially after surviving a decade of massive anxiety and depression. As I try to always say.."..it's her loss", and she seems so unhappy for herself, I really think it will come back to haunt her as she gets older. Wishful thinking on my part, eh?..hehee
Well, thanks again..it feels nice to have some 'concerned'..at that really is great support. :-)
Take good care...and I will post my number shortly..haaahaa! :-) (j/k)
Jay
> Hi,
> Interested in an older woman? No, just kidding, I'd only want to be friends, friends, friends, friends, friends....I kept telling my boys (19 and 23) as they watched their friends get involved one after another...that there was no reasoning to why this happened. THe last time I saw the 23 year old, he said, he had given up completely on trying to figure out 'how to behave' to attract a female. He was at a party of mutual friends, and a gal was talking to him, and said, hey, you are kinda cute, and he said, you are kinda cute too...later she said, and you are nice too...so now, they are boy and girl friend...the younger one, had to get 'hit on' repeatedly by his now gf, before he realized what was going on and that the next step was his...and all he had to say was yes...
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> I experienced both of those experiences when young and single. There were several guys I was attracted to and just about bashed them over the head...maybe I should have...eventually, I learned and did just about do that with my mate of thirty years. We don't have mating plumage, or a dance, maybe we do...one thing I said, over and over, is, you never know when you are going to meet the second person you will spend the rest of your life with. While you are waiting, make sure the first person (yourself) is the one you really enjoy.
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> philosophical mouse
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