Posted by jay on October 28, 2002, at 15:42:17
In reply to Re: pseudo-friend zone..responsibility!!, posted by Tabßitha on October 27, 2002, at 1:53:28
Well, no I wasn't saying you where, or on purpose, toying with your friends emotions, but I think we *all* play some pretty 'wicked' games (even if we don't know it) at times. I mean, rather then hanging around someone and doing the ambiguous on/off again thing, I find it best just to axe *any* type of relationship like this rather then torcher each other. It just ends up becoming some kind of histrionic soap opera. Then you and they are free to move on. Any other way just seems cruel. That's my opinion anyways, and it has worked well for me, and kept myself and others from falling to pieces and ending up in the hospital over a failed relationship.
I also think it is quite a stereotype to think that men often mistake friendship with a women for something more. Where are these 'rules' that men can/should only ask out certain women? That is like the Caste system in India, where only certain people of a certain class can do certain jobs. There are no clear-cut boundaries, and *anything* is game. I think it is (and no..I am not saying you are!) snobbish of some people to think they have some sort of power to presume only 'certain' people have some kind of right to ask you out on a date. It sounds kind of *very* exclusive and elitist.
Anyhow..just IMHO..don't kill me for it, ok? (Hehee.)
Jay
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