Posted by NancyLee on May 15, 2002, at 7:47:32
hope this doesnt offend eveyone but I havegotten off a couple of my meds Trazadone, and reduced Clonapin substantially.
Have started to get stong urges again that I havent felt in years. I found out that if I go back to level 1, I might have a successful sex life again with husband.
First of all I have to work around the fact that he does have a brain injury and cannot make love the same way he used to and never will again. He has all the finesse of a barn yard animal right now. I think introducig a sex toy such as a vibrator might help. So instead of tring to get through a clumsy fore play session I think I might just become receptive by manual stimulation. I have used these things(vibrators) in the past and they are intense. When you have feeling, like me, when it is reduced it can be really pleasurable becuse it can be used longer and make me more receptive to intercourse wih my husband. Also fantasy in my mind I can conjure up past lovers and companions and lately this has been turning me on also. Sorry if this is too graphic. I am trying to figure this out for myself you know? Before marriage I was bisexual now that might have been due to being in my manic phases because when I was manic sex was constant I was the most promiscuous person I know of.
So I was thinking that a night in a nice hotel with a nice dinner and a relaxing atmosphere with my bag of goodies maybe massge oil? might help. But I must say I dont know if it is the change in meds or the addition of Trileptol I was telling everyone about, but Im feeling ready again.
So I think it will be like brand new for us again.......................peace & love
poster:NancyLee
thread:23803
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