Posted by Marie1 on August 9, 2001, at 8:23:58
In reply to Re: What would you do? Help me., posted by susan C on August 8, 2001, at 18:54:17
Susan,
My brother killed himself at the age of 32 (4 yrs. ago). I don't think I'll ever get over it, but it comforts me to think that maybe he's happier now. Both my parents were gone by then - my mother in '95, and my dad in '92 (on the same day!!) I'm glad they didn't have to suffer through what we did. I lost another brother recently (natural causes), and I realized the pain of mourning a suicide is different in some ways. It would have killed my parents.
I'm so sorry about your brother. Were you close in age? Was there any history of mental illness or any forewarning? It's so awful - now I'm the one crying on the keyboard. Hugs to you.Marie
> Dear Gracie,
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> I would probably have done the same thing.
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> You don't describe what happened after he started crying. Did you touch him? Will you contact him to let him now know how you feel?
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> Like Greg, I too dont understand your spouse's reaction, except that I too have had mine intercede when I am about to do something that 'will make things worse' and later, begrudgingly, I have appreciated his help.
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> Has he cried about the loss of your brother?
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> When you were describing the scene with your dad, I imagined my dad across the table from me.
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> You see, my dad died of cancer three months before my brother suicided. So, I haven't heard a word from my dad about my brother's death. True, it is different situation, but I would like to think that we would have cried together, held hands and grieved the loss of a great guy whom we loved.
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> From a keyboard wet with tears, hugs
> -S
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