Posted by blahblahblah on June 10, 2009, at 6:37:20
In reply to Re: Dizzy » Dinah, posted by Daisym on June 10, 2009, at 1:09:07
Hey Dinah,
I kind of understand how you are feeling with your mum appearing to exaggerate and you not wanting to ignore it but also not to jump to it. My mum suffers back from Munchausen By Proxy and Munchausen Sydrome, so she has spent my whole life being very sick in hospitals, rehab, etc. She nearly had her leg amputated. i could go on. But my point is, now when she is really ill myself and my sisters tend to ignore it. Which i find very hard, i want to tell myself she is not really making it up. but i know the truth. then i tell myself, that one day she will die, and has to get very sick. so at what point do i believe it is real. will i go to hell for ignoring a cry out when it is very serious?
but in the end, as what i want to give to you, is you are both adults, and you know your own mum from past experiences. you have to look after yourself and if it is hurting you then you need to stop back a bit. as my therapist always tells me, my mother is not my responsbility. If she has hurt you a lot in the past you need to heal. Of course, you don't want to get down on yourself. if you need to give her some help that is understandable, but please look out for yourself, and commit only to what you feel capable of. I hope that helps a little. :)
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