Posted by caraher on August 13, 2006, at 22:46:49
In reply to Re: I知 going to tie my therapist to his chair ｻ Daisym, posted by Tamar on August 12, 2006, at 21:37:48
> Yeah. I have that voice too: it痴 harsh and mocking. It tells me that my love for him is disgusting, because I知 disgusting. It tells me I知 stupid because I forget that people don稚 want me to love them. And it tells me that if I allow myself to confess my love for him, he will certainly be disgusted.
I know this voice yields slowly to reason, if at all. Still... imagine writing a list of people whose love you would find "disgusting." And by "love" I don't mean you would have any kind of ongoing relationship with these people. I just mean, someone comes to you, tells of their love for you, and says they understand that it won't be possible to have a relationship.
How likely is it that you'd be "disgusted," even if it was someone you are not attracted to? How likely is it that you'd be flattered on some level?
I can't think of anyone on Babble whom I'd consider "disgusting" in the way your inner voice says you are. Daisy and Tamar, I find it at least as inconceivable that your respective Ts would be disgusted by your loving feelings as your critical voices would find the acceptance I'm sure you would find.
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