Posted by sunnydays on July 12, 2006, at 9:09:04
In reply to An Emotional Therapist, posted by Daisym on July 12, 2006, at 1:46:23
Oh, this sounds like a lot of the same fears I have, and it is so scary. And I have a slight quibble with your wording - you didn't "make" your therapist cry, he cried because it was appropriate and because he was sad. You can't control his feelings. But I completely understand the fear that he will get fed up and leave. I have asked "Are you going to leave?" so many times, and my T always responds "I'm going to be here. You're welcome here however you feel." Trust that your T will be there too. It doesn't sound like he has any intention of leaving.
As for the anger - yes, for me that is one of the scariest emotions in the world. I have just very recently started expressing it, but every time I do I have to qualify it and try to explain it away. But my T keeps reminding me it's a feeling like any other feeling. And your T can feel angry at your dad, too. Even though anger is scary, your T won't be scary and hurt you with his anger. And there's no way he could hurt your dad with it.
Daisym, please keep posting. It sounds like what you're doing is so similar to what I'm doing. And it's not fair that we have to do it. But you are doing really well. Try to believe that you're therapist thinks so as well.
sunnydays
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