Posted by madeline on May 19, 2006, at 7:33:48
In reply to Mom stuff, posted by Daisym on May 18, 2006, at 23:28:43
Daisy,
You know what I did? Well, I was writing an email to a friend in which I was basically trashing my mother. To quote a line from the email "Remember, she is the bitch that ruined the first half of my life"
It was extremely bashy.
Well, Freud must have stepped in the room because I accidentally, but of course on purpose, sent it to HER!
I'm not going to lie. It was tough. She was very mad and very hurt. But a couple of days after she received the email, she called me.
She told me that she understood how I felt, she apologized for all the times she had let me down and THEN she told me that she loved me unconditionally. No matter what I thought of her she was going to continue to love me.
We talked for about two hours that night.
Since then, things have been less "up and down". She is bipolar and my therapist told me he had been noticing some bipolar tendencies in me.
I called her to talk about it. I was struck at how similar we are. It was a great talk and I can't tell you how nice it was to feel that connected with her. She understands my pain, and now I finally understand hers. We are of the same mold she and I, and it's helping me to understand myself so much better.
Now, I'm not saying that my outcome will be the same as yours. But there is no denying that we are our mother's daughters.
I say send your letter, be open to any response from her (even if it is no response at all), and hope for the best. For me, it worked out in a good way.
poster:madeline
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