Posted by curtm on May 4, 2006, at 14:42:09
In reply to inner child stuff, posted by wishingstar on May 3, 2006, at 20:58:28
>> The harder she tries to convince me or use this interpretation of things, the less connected I'm feeling to her. It's just too abstract for me.
** That is like a double-edged sword for me because if you are trying to help me through listening to what I have to say, I will whine (poor me.) If you are trying to help me by suggesting what what might be best for me to do/change, I will get defensive and flippant.
My pdoc is also my therapist (to me.) I have never gotten defensive with her, partly because she has an uncanny ability to read my personality and know not to tell me what's best for me. She has earned my trust and respect. She just listens, nods or shakes her head, then prescribes medicines.
I think a lot of it boils down to the value of 'trust.' If she doesn't earn your trust, how will she earn your respect? By trust I mean be loyal to your needs. You shouldn't have to be careful what you say and you shouldn't be afraid to tell her what you need and expect from her.
My outlook on it is that my pdoc and I are getting therapy from each other.
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