Posted by orchid on April 26, 2006, at 14:46:22
In reply to Crush on My Counselor- Out of Control?, posted by DisposableDoll on April 25, 2006, at 17:52:56
Hi DisposableDoll,
Welcome.
I think what would help you is to start working on the father issues more. Start by questioning yourself what your dad meant to you - if he was available to you, if he loved you, was he abusive, what you loved him the most for, what you missed from him etc.
I think you are right about you transferring your father onto your T. I did that too, and the route that I followed was to question myself more and more about my feelings about my father. And finally I realized that almost all of the intense longings were directly related to my needing some approval and love from an authority figure. And I finally managed to find a way to give myself my own approval, and that reduced these longings quite a bit. And I no longer have these kind of intense longings.
And I think you already have done a tremendous job in gaining insight into it yourself.
Read babble a lot, and it will help you. Read about the feelings of everyone here, and you will gain ways and insights of helping yourself.
poster:orchid
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