Posted by gardenergirl on April 25, 2006, at 8:30:48
In reply to Thanks All., posted by Daisym on April 25, 2006, at 1:22:25
Daisy,
It wouldn't hurt so much if you didn't care about your husband. You obviously do care or you wouldn't have tried so hard to save him. But you are right, he has to save himself. Sound familiar? I remember you posting something recently about how ultimately, you had to heal yourself. Actually, this might be the greatest gift you can give your husband--the freedom to take responsibility for himself. Not that you were holding him back. But placing the responsbility for himself squarely in his hands puts it where it belongs, whether he wants it or not.I'm sure this is going to be a mixed bag of intense emotions. It's okay to cry, to rage, to feel excited, to feel anxious, to feel happy, to feel loss, to feel whatever comes up. It's part of who you are. It's a complex thing. Of course, I imagine it might also be draining, so please take care of yourself.
I'm glad you are looking to us for some support and that you have your T.
Love,
gg
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