Posted by fallsfall on January 4, 2005, at 11:21:20
In reply to Re: Conscious, unconscious and the grey in between » fallsfall, posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 7:54:37
I get so confused.
We have been able to have productive talks about secondary gains to remaining depressed. I probably did need to be hit over the head since I honestly didn't believe that I *had* any unconscious motivations.
But the whole things gets so painful when I'm being asked to do something I don't know how to do. I'm *willing* to do whatever it is that I need to do, but I can't do it if I don't know what "it" is.
My daughter was talking with a friend yesterday. She said "Last year I lost credit for an English class because I was tardy too much, and now I'm taking that class over. Now I'm in the same situation with History - not as bad, but in the same situation". She talked like it was completely out of her control. Isn't that how it feels when the motivations are unconscious?
I don't know if the topic of this thread is my daughter's dilemma, or conscious vs. unconscious, or fear of failure, or frustration because of not knowing what to do, or abandonment (because the people who "know" what to do refuse to tell me - even though my therapist (and my previous one) insists that he isn't withholding advice/information). I just know that this situation feels lousy.
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