Posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 7:54:37
In reply to Conscious, unconscious and the grey in between, posted by fallsfall on January 4, 2005, at 7:21:32
I have to confess that conscious and unconscious are one of those trig type of psychology concepts to me. :( I understand the overview but the nuances of grey escape me. It seems like you'd either be aware of something or not aware, or maybe peripherally aware.
I can see why you'd be upset at the "You want to stay depressed comment", especially if it was given without ways to change it. It's an empowering statement, in a way, I suppose. Since if you choose to feel that way, you can choose differently.
But I'd get up and walk out if my therapist said something like that. The closest he ever got was asking me about secondary gains. And let's see. That was in the context of OCD. So while I got angry, I can now see that there were secondary gains. OCD is very useful for someone who tends to be rather scatterbrained but who needs to be not scatterbrained for work. Also it probably distracted me from the Grendel's mother of emotional instability lying under the Grendel of OCD.
So to me that was why I "wanted" to keep my OCD, perhaps. It wasn't a fair trade though in the end. But he wouldn't have kept me as a client if he had actually put it that way.
So perhaps there are other ways to say the same thing to your daughter? Or yourself? More loving and accepting ways? Because "want" doesn't seem as right as "think you need".
poster:Dinah
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