Posted by deirdrehbrt on April 22, 2004, at 21:32:31
In reply to Not being understood, posted by fallsfall on April 22, 2004, at 20:02:29
Hey Lady!
You are doing some really difficult work. You are also doing from an extremely logical position. I want you to know that what I'm going to say isn't meant to be harsh, I care about you very much.
I don't know if I've noticed this before, but it sort of seems to me that very often, when you find yourself in a completely emotional situation, you defend yourself with logic. Even in your recounting of your sessions, you are very analytical.
Perhaps your therapist is getting a bit thrown by your logic. I don't know how many patients that he has that respond in the same way, but I don't think that it's many, if it's any. I think that you seem to get upset quite often because things aren't logical, because reactions may be unanticipated.
I think that what your therapist said he wants from you is (sorry about this) spontaneity while you want to know what is going to happen. It seems though, that this is something that you really need to learn, and maybe all of this pain is in part breaking down the defenses that are keeping you from being spontaneous.
I may be way off base, and I apologize if I am. I do really care.
Dee.
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