Posted by alexandra_k on October 3, 2006, at 7:27:45
In reply to Re: 10 things to be proud of myself for » alexandra_k, posted by Lindenblüte on October 2, 2006, at 8:22:47
> I am not sure that I would ever have the courage to change topics midway through my education. I guess I like mine enough, but I certainly don't feel like it's a major part of my identity or something. Just feels like another project I signed up to do. ho hum.
I guess it is a bit different when lab work is a part of what you are doing. You kind of need to pick a manageable project and get supervisor etc interested. Then do ethical approval etc etc so I guess it is much harder to change your topic or project part way. I've been doing my thesis for around... 6 months. Lots of people change their mind in the first year, so I'm allowed to change it at this point that is fairly standard :-) I think it is made a lot easier by not having to do labs and stuff... Though that being said I'm going to see about going to a lab somewhere for a month or a few months... so I can learn more about cog psych of schizophrenia and the like :-)
> I think it would have been more appropriate to "invite" someone to participate in a pre-existing heated discussion.The discussion started with people present and then a few people were feeling upset about the discussion becoming heated so they chose to move to a different room to have a more social chat.
> What bothered me so much was that when I asked if I was interrupting or getting into the middle of something simply by moving to another room, it was affirmed (both times!). Ouch.
I'm sorry it hurt. But... That is the danger in asking a question sometimes... I thought... That you weren't so interested in figuring out what was being discussed and joining in as you were trying to divert the discussion into a light social chat. That is why I was quiet. That was why people chose to leave to go to the other room and chat; because people were feeling upset about the conversation. I didn't want to upset you.
What was worse saying 'yes' when people ask if they are interrupting a conversation or...
Continuing on with a heated discussion...I mean... Which is the least hurtful?
I don't know.
I appreciate some people may have preferred us to not have had that conversation. I don't know what to say in response to that. I've never been much of a person to shut up about something when asked. Especially when people don't have to read and when there are other rooms to chat in.
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