Posted by over 55 on July 25, 2006, at 11:11:31
In reply to Re: Muscle Testing » over 55, posted by Kath on July 24, 2006, at 10:49:42
> Hi 'over',
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> I enjoy chatting with you! You are absoLUTEly right about it eating up the day. I do some housecleaning jobs with a friend. I guess that could be called "I have my own business" LOL but I don't think of it that way. People usually seem to have their homes cleaned on alternate weeks, so l week I work Wed, Thur & Fri and the alternate week I work just Thur & Friday. I feel so fortunate to have as much free time as I do.Sound like the perfect job to me....Ihave a 8-5 job, but really do enjoy it. I did social work in child protection for many years and now am training other's to do the work. I like seeing people succeed so this is a good fit for me.
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> I am going through a terrible awful time in my life right now to do with my son. I post about it on the Social Board & don't want to re-type it, so if you're interested you could read it on that board. I think it's sort of near the bottom.I am really sad you are having such a hard time with your child. Drugs can change people so drastically. But there is help out there for them and maybe he will "see the light" one of these days. It is amazing the heart we have towards our children no matter where they fail. I hope this situation resolves itself soon and in a positive way. Life is so precious and short to waste time on suffering!! He and your family will be in my prayers. I will stay up on this aspect by reading your other site posts so you don't have to repeat for me ( : I will tell you about my own child "drama" in answering another question you asked further down.
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> Your situation in the country sounds truly idyllic(sp?). Apart from you & your menagerie, does anyone else live there? I think you mentioned a boyfriend who was "acceptable" to your pets if you weren't there. Does he live with you? Any kids?Hum.m.m. yes a "confirmed bachelor" boyfriend of two years lives with me!! My religious history would never have entertained the idea, but it just felt like the right thing to do and I do not regret it!! I wasn't looking for a partner, I was "scouting" him out for a friend. I was telling her what a nice guy he was and she should check it out. She'd recently adopted an 8 yr old boy as a single mom and responded "I just don't have time for a man right now".....so I thought "well, I do" and so the story goes. He and I kept talking and going places together and well.....here we are two years later. He is very marriage shy and since I spent 27 years in a one marriage I am in no hurry either. We both seem to thrive on the idea that this is "fun for now"!!! He wouldn't know the difference; but it really feels like we are married. Very confortable and comforting to have someone to be with. He tolerates and even likes most of my animals so that is a real plus. The one thing he talked about early on (I haven't heard this for the last year though) is his desire to have children. He is a bit younger (I confess it is 15 years younger (ha ha) than me; but the children thing isn't happening. I have no desire to be the "oldest living mother" or adopt or anything else. So that has been an issue that he has to resolve in his life journey. He does look older and I am a well-preserved 58, so no one questions our being together. We appear to be a pretty good fit and for now it works!!
I eluded to my own "children" problems on another part of this site one time. I have essentially been estranged from both since the divorce (13 yrs ago). There have been fleeting moments of "togetherness" following by long periods of silence from my daughter who is married and has three children of her own. I have cried so many tears over this I cannot count. She cannot tell me why she does not want me in her life; she just doesn't!! She says she was a "fat unhappy child" and it is my fault. Heck, I was a fat unhappy adult, what did I know!! I felt I did an adequate job, considering my history. But whatever I did or did not do, it was wrong. Now, I feel so awkward around her (which is seldom) it is excruciating for everyone. I have sent gifts consistently to each grandchild but have no contact, which breaks my heart. I have seen each of them, but two wouldn't know me if they saw me. It is a very sad sitation and I wish I knew what to do. I have appologized and offered to pay for and go to therapy with her. "No", she says".although she was in therapy herself so that is a good thing ...so I am stuck in this pain for now.
My son, who is 8 yrs younger than his sister, is a follower and appears to feel guilt for having much to do with me since his sister is boycotting me. So...it goes on year after year. He struggled with drugs for a few years in his middle 20's. I offered to have him come live with me and to pay for any treatment program he needed at the time. He was in New York with his dad at the time. This was not acceptable I heard later from his dad. They had wanted me to pay to get his car from repossession and pay his credit cards off instead so he was "hurt" when I offered the other. I did not feel and still don't that bailing him out of a financial situation, caused by drug use, was the answer. I offered what I thought might permanently help him. So that was my "sin" with that child.
We pastored a local church for many years and I never would in my wildest dreams have seen the future turn out this way. but it has and I just try to stay positive and hope that some day these relationships can be healed. I struggle with a it almost daily in my thoughts. But enough of that. My son is drug free as of now and going back to school in another state. So that is a good thing and I hope brings you hope for your son.
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> Could you tell me how to get 'into' the area where you read about the finger-testing? I can't figure out where to go; have tried a few
times.I finally found it. It was in the downloadable part of the free work-book on page 7-8. It is all very interesting though about cellular memory etc. I want to go back and reread it all as I just skimmed it the first time. Hope this isn't illegal but here is the part for "finger-rubbing"....
Thumb and Index Finger:
Rub the fleshy part of your thumb and your index finger lightly back and forth
against each other and just observe how they feel.
Now, ask your body to use a smooth feeling to mean “Yes" or "I don't have a
problem with that," and then say or think, "Body, would you please show me a yes?"
Now rub your thumb and index finger back and forth to see how a “Yes" feels.
Next, ask your body to use a sticky feeling to mean “No" or "I have a problem
with that" and then say or think, "Body, would you please show me a no?" Now, rub
your thumb and index finger back and forth to see how a “No" feels.
You can set the system up either way you want to, with smooth meaning “No”
and sticky meaning “Yes.” Smooth does not inherently mean “Yes" and sticky does
not inherently mean “No." However you set it up is how your body will respond. All
you are doing is saying, "Body, I want you to do this to mean yes, and I want you to
do that to mean no." I'm reasonably certain that your body will say, "Okay, I can do
that."
If these methods don't work for you, or if you are concerned that you're
making it happen, or if you're concerned that these techniques conflict with your
religious beliefs, you can put your healing in the hands of God or the Holy Spirit or
simply the divine wisdom of the universe. Whatever you call it, it is that which knows
what is truly best for you. Entreat that divine entity, "If it is time for this problem to be
healed, then may it happen now. If it is not the time for it to be healed, may it
happen when the time is right." Then you can rest in the knowledge that this either
is or is not the right time for that particular issue to be healed.
Whether you use muscle testing or whether you put your healing in the hands
of the divine, be sure to ask whether or not each step of TAT is necessary when you
are working on a problem.
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> Thanks, Kath
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> PS - I hope you have a great day. I'm glad you had such a nice weekend.Well enough for now...I must get back to work...it's almost lunch time here (yea ( :
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