Posted by alexandra_k on January 11, 2020, at 3:40:24
In reply to Re: charm, posted by rjlockhart37 on January 7, 2020, at 22:26:26
It's nice to feel liked and appreciated.
Admiration? I remember admiring people, when I was younger, wanting to be like them.
I guess I admire people, still. Or, there are certain things about certain people that I admire -- even though there may well be other parts or aspects of qualities that I don't think all that much of.
I am not very good at giving genuine compliments. Or, on focusing on that which I do like and want to see more of.
Which is a shame, because most people are genuine compliment-starved, I think.
Prince someone visited here relatively recently. I think Prince someone. Royalty, anyway. There were bits in the paper about what he said as part of a speech or something.
He said about admiring the courage of the Maori people. Yes. There courage is something to be admired. I think that is a genuine compliment, indeed. He said quite a few things like that. Things that were good and kind and motivating and... Inspiring, yeah. Helping everyone feel good and who doesn't want to feel good for good reason?
I hate that feeling of let-down, too. I remember feeling disappointed, rather a lot, when I was little. I don't feel disappointed very much, anymore, because I learned not to hope for very much at all, likely to avoid that awful feeling.
Maybe not with respect to some things in my life... But with respect to people, I mean.
It does hurt when one sort of bounds up to someone and isn't met with happiness and appreciation. I have the faintest memory of that..
Sometimes it isn't that they aren't happy to see you. It is just that people get caught up in their own heads or their own issues or whatever, sometimes.
I don't know.
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