Posted by SLS on May 27, 2009, at 9:11:35
In reply to I am going on dates tomorrow (weds), posted by Deneb on May 26, 2009, at 23:13:06
> How picky should I be?
How desperate are you?
What are you looking for in a potential mate?
I don't think I am picky, but I have learned how to screen people for:
1. What I absolutely need.
2. What I absolutely won't accept.
3. What I would like, but is not absolutely necessary.
4. Would this person make a good friend?
There is more to the screening process, but this is a good starting point. You must learn enough about yourself before you can decide on what you are looking for in a mate.You can certainly date with the intentions of just having a companion to have fun with. Lots of friendships evolve into intimate and successful relationships.
My gut reaction is that you are planning to do too much too soon. You might want to slow down and choose safely and wisely. People were there years before you even thought to participate in a dating environment. There will be people to date no matter how slow you take things.
You don't have to slow down. Maybe you are taking things at a pace that is best for you. I don't really know you well enough to be for sure. However, you seem to be the type of person who becomes very enthusiastic about new activities to involve yourself in. This is a good thing. I would only suggest that you temper your enthusiasm with good judgment - the kind of judgment that takes time to develop.
- Scott
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