Posted by Quintal on August 6, 2008, at 6:00:26
In reply to Re: Being a sperm donor » Quintal, posted by fayeroe on August 5, 2008, at 19:05:28
Yes, I see your point Pat. I think we would/should have some sort of legal agreement for the child's benefit, and so we both know what each of us expects in terms of custody so there are no surprises down the road. I can't see me ever having any grounds to challenge her for custody, and I wouldn't for the child's sake anyway. The only thing I'd go to court for would be access rights, but since we've been friends all our lives it's not likely that she'll just swan off into the sunset and never speak to me again once she's got my kid. We're like family already, just gone our seperate ways like brothers and sisters do. There's still that bond there.
I think I'll probably end up being 'uncle Q' to whatever child she has, even if she were to adopt - and she has considered that. Thank you for the words Pat. I have always wanted to have children, but I just put it to the back of my mind as something that would never happen. I would want to wait until I've finished my education and got a steady job before going into anything like this. I want to contribute as much as she does to their upbringing, and if she doesn't agree to that then it probably won't be something I'd consider. I would feel like I'm being used.
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