Posted by TexasChic on July 19, 2008, at 21:05:28
In reply to Re: 90 Days to get another job » Larry Hoover, posted by TexasChic on July 19, 2008, at 10:08:27
After briefly discussing how I grew up, my current and past work situations, and my relationships throughout my life, she pointed out something that should have been obvious to me. My controlling father was a bully, and ever since then I have been recreating that scenario. She said, as one of you smart people told me, that it takes two people to form a relationship, and I keep on taking on the role as victim.
Funny, it never occurred to me to think of my dad as a bully, I just knew he was controlling and crazy, and would probably kill us all one day (he passed away fairly young, which was quite the guilty relief). I learned to be passive and not make any waves, because that's the only choice I had as a kid. Until she pointed it out, I had no idea I was reenacting the same thing over and over.
She told me I can use my 90 days as practice (at what I assume is not being a victim). I look forward to more meetings with her.
-T
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