Posted by cloudydaze on August 3, 2006, at 21:44:20
In reply to Re: I have serious problems..., posted by TexasChic on August 3, 2006, at 21:25:54
> Okay, first off, this strikes a cord with me because I was my Grandmother's caregiver during the last 7 years of her life. For your mom to expect you to care for her with no emotional reprecussions is ridiculous. People TRAIN HARD for this. And not even to take care of a relative! You are COMPLETELY right to feel freaked out. I really, really mean this. That doesn't mean you can't handle it, but you have every right to be scared. I would be very concerned if you weren't.
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> I did things I never dreamed I would do while caring for my Grandmother. And to top it all off, there's the emotional turmoil! Not everyone can handle this, just as not everyone is cut out to be a nurse. Like I said, I'm not at all saying you are incapable, but you have every right to tell your mother you are not qualified and it scares you. Ask her what she wants you to do if the worst happens. Ask her what you're supposed to do if your Grandmother needs to go to the bathroom (or if you have to change a diaper). These are not unreasonable things to worry about.
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> Please babble mail me if you run into any trouble. I'll check my email, and if it gets too bad I'll give you my phone number so you can call me. You really shouldn't have to be put in this position, but I know how it is when you're living with your parents and at their command. Do you think your Mom would really kick you and your daughter out? Is this a manipulative thing?
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> I really feel for you. I won't be able to check my email at work, but I will check it when I get home and throughout the weekend just incase you need anything.
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> -T
It is absolutely a manipulative thing - she's used it on me for years. She loves to have control over me. I think this is partially the reason I've had trouble functioning as an adult. But i think she would kick me out if she got mad enough.I think i'm leaving babble though. Can't handle it here. i'll babblemail you my email addy though.
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