Posted by ClearSkies on November 18, 2005, at 5:04:06
In reply to I bit the bullet, posted by TexasChic on November 17, 2005, at 19:24:48
I've had similarly bad experiences at making friends, TC. I am a very lonely person and it's difficult for me at the moment because I'm not working and so am further isolated. Joining community groups or taking classes is frankly beyond my abilities right now.
What I did decide to do, however, is to stop trying to find friends. I think I am coming across as being pathetic (this is just me, remember!! You are not in the least like me!!) and that people pick up on that right off the bat. It took a great deal of pressure off myself, and I am not sweating this now.
For me a friendship is like a seed that's been blown into your garden. You don't realize it's there until it has taken root. Then you care for it and it thrives like any other living thing. I'm not good at transplanting, or gardenening in general. Unless it involves food! I can grow herbs with no effort.
OK so the garden thing got away from me there. But you get my idea. Just let it happen and try not to worry about whether it's going to work or not. Try not to invest yourself in whether it's going to be good for you or not.hugs
ClearSkies
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