Posted by Susan47 on June 6, 2005, at 18:46:51
In reply to Re: This is about Sex and Men » caraher, posted by Damos on June 6, 2005, at 17:34:37
I just also realized something important about me, it's about being appreciated, knowing I'm appreciated.
I used to get flowers quite a bit, from men, when I was single. And when you're young, and you're single, that's expected. But when I received them, there was an unspoken message hiding in them .. it was .. "this is okay because we're sleeping together, now", or, "I'm going to push for you to have sex with me, I'm showing you I deserve it" or "Tom did this for his girlfriend, and I'm at least as classy as he is, so here" or something like that. Always a motive, always a reason.. but never, never once was I really that reason, you know? But a friend gave me flowers last week, and I just loved that she found me special enough to do that for me. It made my day, really, literally. I'm learning.. learning to appreciate the intensity of my emotional life, how important it is to me, and other people, too. It's why the down times are so incredibly bad.
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